Below is a video of Barack Obama saying he'll meet John McCain or George Bush anywhere, anytime to talk about military policy:
Here's an article from CBS News: Obama won't appear at "unmoderated" townhall meetings. WHere he wont have teleprompters or speech writers telling him what to say.
With No Rival At Town Hall, McCain Attacks Oil Companies
In surfing through Youtube to see if there's a video of Michelle Obama using the term "whitey", I found one vidoe that had that title...it had been uploaded a week ago, was seen by 25,000 people, and had been "removed by user". So who knows what it really was.